Written 25th February 2021

When narcissists fight

They don’t fight with their heart

A complete lack of empathy

No insight on their part

They’ll judge, they’ll blame

Take little responsibility

They won’t own a mistake

Say ‘Yes, shit that was me!”

When faced with hard facts

(That they know ARE true)

The easiest recourse

Turn the argument on you

They will call you crazy

They will label you insane

They will gaslight you constantly

They will fill you with shame

They will do their utmost

To pull other parties in

With their charm and grace

It’s a hard fight to win

You’ll want to scream

Cry and run away

As you notice quietly

Your nerves start to fray

But for me I think

The absolute worst

Is the realisation of how

My own emotions always burst

I know when I’m reacting

From a place of hurt

And it causes more shame

Than all of the dirt ….

…. the dirt that is flung

When I stand my ground

Valid points that are

100% sound

 I know in my deepest

Heart of hearts

 I should just shut up

And let it all pass

But still the little girl

Inside, I see

Just wants someone

To stand up for me

So, when accusations and unkind words

Are thrown

I’ve felt incapable at times

To just LEAVE IT ALONE

When absolute lies

Are created in a dispute

It’s hard not to jump in

And insistently refute

But from experience learned

Defending never works

You will only end up

Getting more hurt

When narcissists fight

YOU WILL NEVER WIN

You will simply be sabotaged

By every one of your sins

Every perceived slight

Every wrong from the past

Will be flung in your face

(And the list will be vast)

You will be left shell shocked

Wondering how the hell did this start

Analysing yourself

Trying to pinpoint YOUR part

So, I don’t have any advice

On how to react

But please remember

This one tiny little fact

Stand your ground

(if you feel you must)

But mostly recognise

It’s YOU you must trust!

Don’t allow them the power

To mess with your head

Simply make a quick bow

And find the exit instead